Friday, April 4, 2008

A Mom's Worries!

This is for any or all of us who have children that may not be perfect. I was recently talking with a friend of mine and we were commiserating on the stress and worry we feel as mom's when our kids may not do, say, act the way we want them to (especially when we are not there with them). Or when they choose to do something we don't agree with. It is so hard when you have a kid that is so great, and you know of their fantastic attributes, their loving ways, their inner faith and their love for their family and what a terrific person this kid is yet others may not see it. And, there are times when during your everyday activities and encounters you may hear someone talking negatively about this child that you love so dearly - and it is clear that they do not know this child but feel necessary to criticize - not only the child - but often the parents. And very often comments and conversations like this very often get back to the child or parents, and it is very hurtful. I do have to admit that there have been times in my life when I have been critical of children or teens that I have come in contact with. I have realized as I have gotten older though that old saying is true, "you can't always judge a book by it's cover". We don't know what goes on in peoples lives or in their homes. We cannot make assumptions and judgements based on our little "snapshot" into someones life. And, for all of you who have felt the sharp sting of criticism directed toward a child that you love and hold precious - just remember that those that truly love you and love your children are the one's that count. Do not listen to or take heed to what other un-informed individuals my have to say! Just keep loving and teaching you children the best way you can. In our life - we know that the best way to do this is to help them learn the ways of Jesus Christ and to strive to be like him and to stay close to the Gospel, and keep them involved in the church and with good friends and activities.

3 comments:

Jen said...

Well said Ginny! ALL CHILDREN deserve the support and encouragement of adults, even if we aren't their parents! Don't you think kids are beaten down enough by peers, they don't need adults (who know better) making them feel inadequate too.

Piano Mom said...

I loved your post. It is soooo important for us to all remember that we don't know everything that is going in the lives of others. And I agree with Jen - kids definitely need all the support and encouragement they can receive.

Pollock Palooza said...

So I'm reading this and wondering who said what... That's the natural man tendency in me. Thus the conference this weekend...

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